I'm surprised at how much anti-technology sentiment there is here, though I'm not sure how old most of you are, so that could be a partial explanation!
I don't read anti technology here. We were talking about people using phones in inappropriate times to me. Like walking in a park or walking down the street or at a crosswalk. They are also used to screen out phone calls and maybe that is Mom calling as she doesn't text message.
It's strange to welcome the internet and desktops/laptops, but somehow be against smartphones.. clearly a natural progression. To address one of the points made in the posts above - I think it's very ironic, QB, that you're using an online forum to echo the not uncommon opinion that social media comes at the too costly expense of real-world sociability, and that people should instead focus on socializing in real life..
This forum is nothing like FB, Snapchat, IMGUR or places online to hook up like Tinder and Match.com. Maybe Despy you don't notice the same things I do. This is a discussion not an argument. I cannot deny your impressions any more than you can mine. So if social media as you see if is bringing us closer I will simply say that is not my experience. \
These Stratego forums are not so different from other outlets of social media, except for the additional layer of anonymity. So in a sense I would call this a version of Facebook that's even further abstracted from the real world.
Oh but they are very different IMO. I can type a lot more here and put out a cogent thought whereas our POTUS thinks Twitter is a good way to get his message across and he is not alone.
I'm not sure if your point here is that people that remain connected through Facebook but not in real life are not actually 'friends'... but if so, I find this problematic. To tie this back to these forums, don't you consider many of the players on this site to be your friends? Likely without ever having met them in real life? I could certainly be wrong, but I doubt any of the Stratego forum members will be carrying your casket!
I would call a few members on the forum friend (including you), but very loosely. I have three real friends on Stratego and I chat with them on Skype so that we may have a real conversation and not just type a few sentences at each other. We laugh and we share sad stories too.
As for the presumptuous opinions about the mainstream social media sites:
These services can be used however you see fit.. Yes there will probably always be teenage girls making dramatic posts about their lives, or people that just flood their profiles with pictures of their babies.. so what? I think you would probably appreciate having such convenient and regularly updated access were these babies your grandchildren..
I cannot disagree with you, but I don't think my 85 year old mother wants a picture of her grand kids. She wants them to call which they never do. The convenience is to screen people out of your life.
Speaking for myself, without Facebook I would certainly have completely lost touch with many people I knew throughout my life. How else would you propose to maintain connections with people you knew in grade school? High school? University? One of the big changes in the last few decades has been global mobility. I attend high school, university, and graduate school in different places, (even different continents), and have worked in yet another 3 places.
I had a difficult school experience and I wouldn't want to keep in touch with any of them. So it is again just a matter of opinion. I feat the global communication (and this sound paranoid) is to ensnare the poor people of the world into debt apps. Promising them entrepreneurship and instead putting them in debt as they are not sophisticated to understand what they are signing up for.
This type of geographic progression is not uncommon. So to expect friendship to be contingent on in-person connection is frankly ridiculous. Just as many people have family across the world, friendship is the same. There are people I haven't seen in many years (granted, very, very few people) that I would still take a bullet for, though depending on circumstances I might not be able to attend their funerals/carry their caskets.
I take your point and I agree. However your real friends will come to you side when you are dying, visit you in the nursing home or just stop by for a cup of tea or coffee. Human interaction cannot be replaced by bits and bytes, but in some cases it is better than nothing.
Also, don't forget about the plethora of romantic relationships and families that have started over the internet! I haven't looked into research on whether these relationships are any more or less stable, but I do have a number of 'friends' that are in relationships with people they met through mobile apps. Fantastic for them, I say.
Good for them. It's not all bad
Coming back more directly to the initial attack on smart phones specifically though, with new technologies there is always the good and the bad. Of course, kids that aren't raised well will have out their cell phones at the dinner table every night, and that's not great. But again this is all 'user error', so to speak. It's like saying guns are evil because some people murder with them (I'm not going to get into a debate about guns though... if you don't like that argument, let's replace 'gun' with 'baseball bat').
I don't car for the gun and baseball bat analogy here, but kids texting at the dinner table is just rude and the parents are probably doing the same thing. This type of observed behavior then infects us all like a virus and we stop sharing with those who are most close to us.
Think about all the positives of having such a high level of connectivity. Before mobile phones, how many people had a family member dying and weren't able to say their goodbyes because there was no way to get in touch? How many people that were out at night fell victim to murder or rape because they couldn't call for help, or they didn't have a cell phone to pretend to be talking into so would-be attackers were scared off? What about being a parent with a teenage kid who hasn't come home on time - without the text/call check in, you'd be very worried and might even have to call the police when the field trip bus just had a flat tire on the way back from some camp site.
I am sure there are plenty of these examples, but not a week goes by I don't have to swerve to avoid someone walking in the street looking at their cell phones. No one thing is all bad.
One thing I will say about the internet though, is that it's a long way from being able to satisfy hunger. I will agree that food still needs to be ingested in real life, and on that note, I leave for lunch.